The Gift of Surrender: Part 2 of the “Move, So the Miracle Can Happen” series
We talk a lot about surrender like it’s this scary, dramatic event. Like you have to be brought to your knees, broken down, or forced into stillness before you finally let go. And for some of us, yes—life will humble you. But surrender doesn’t always have to be painful.
Sometimes, surrender is quiet. Sometimes, it’s a decision you make at sunrise, or a deep exhale in the shower. Sometimes, it’s whispering, “I trust you,” even when you don’t have a clue how things will work out. Surrender can be a soft, sacred choice. And when you really practice it? It becomes a gift.
Not to God. Not to the universe.
To you.
Surrender is Not Weakness. It’s Strength in Its Truest Form.
Let’s be real—most of us weren’t taught how to surrender. Especially as Black women, especially if you grew up watching strong women do it all, fix it all, survive it all. We weren’t raised to release. We were trained to hold on.
We’re praised for being strong, but not for being soft.
We’re admired for our resilience, but not our rest.
We’re allowed to lead, but not to lean.
So of course surrender feels unnatural. It goes against everything we’ve been conditioned to do. But here’s the truth no one talks about: surrender isn’t weakness. It’s strength reimagined. It’s power that doesn’t have to prove itself. It’s saying, “I don’t have to fight to receive. I don’t have to chase to be chosen. I don’t have to force what’s already mine.”
Surrender Creates Space
You can’t hold your blessings and your baggage at the same time. Something has to go.
Surrender creates space for clarity. For peace. For newness. For truth to rise up and speak to you in the silence. But if your hands are full of what you’re afraid to release—old identities, dead relationships, outdated dreams—you’ll keep missing what’s trying to come in.
We’re often praying for the new while clinging to the old.
But the new can’t enter a space that’s already crowded with fear, ego, and control.
Surrender is the spiritual decluttering of your life.
And once you let go? Baby, the air shifts. The energy changes. You feel it.
Surrender Allows Divine Timing to Work
Have you ever tried to rush something that wasn’t ready? Or tried to “make something happen” before its time? That relationship, that job, that move—it felt forced. And even if it worked for a while, it didn’t last because it wasn’t aligned.
Surrender teaches you the rhythm of divine timing. It reminds you that just because you can doesn’t mean you should. It humbles the part of you that wants to be in control and reminds you that delay isn’t denial—it’s protection. Preparation. Positioning.
You don’t have to chase what’s aligned. What’s yours will meet you when you’re ready, not just when you want it.
The Practice of Surrender
Here’s what surrender has taught me:
You can set goals and still stay open.
You can desire deeply and still detach from outcomes.
You can release without giving up.
Surrender isn’t about doing nothing. It’s about doing what’s yours to do—and releasing the rest. It’s about trusting that Spirit sees the bigger picture, even when you’re stuck in the pixels.
It’s about believing that your peace is not a byproduct of things going right, but a result of things being aligned.
A Few Questions for Reflection
If you’re ready to practice surrender—not as a dramatic act, but as a daily rhythm—ask yourself:
What do I keep trying to figure out that’s not mine to fix?
What would it feel like to stop forcing and start flowing?
What would I have access to if I weren’t so consumed with control?
Take a moment today and just be. No fixing. No planning. No overthinking. Just trust. Breathe. Receive.
Because surrender is not a last resort—it’s a lifestyle.
And when you live in that flow, miracles feel less like surprises and more like rhythm.
More like right on time.
